It's like this, you hang in, you're "brave ", "courageous". You know the truth?It's rubbish. It takes even more courage to admit you want to give up and face the failure. To hate your life and your loneliness to see your children grow up and drift out of touch. To see your family and friends put you into the "duty box".

So you lust after the admiration, the weak praise, the fleeting visit. The "braver" you are the fewer the visits. So weakness is despised, a turn-off,a downer, a good reason to stay away. Strength on the other hand, takes the pressure off. Either way just ignore the problem, he'll go away, he's fine.